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YOU PROBABLY DEAL WITH A LOT OF SHAME
​That's because you grew up in a family, culture, and society that told you that you weren't enough. You were told that there was a part of you that was inherently flawed and unacceptable. As a result, you likely deveoped coping mechanisms to tolerate this shame. You may have developed perfectionism, trying to make yourself as palatable as possible to others. You have developed unhealthy coping mechanisms to numb yourself to feeling low self-worth.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO LIVE LIKE THIS ANYMORE
When I first sought therapy myself, a lot of my experiences as a gay man went unaddressed—especially when it came to sex and dating. That's why I've developed my own method to help gay men live their best lives. My approach synthesizes the best of several therapeutic modalities, including EMDR and cognitive behavioral therapy. The primary focus of my practice is providing psychotherapy to gay men. In therapy, I can help you re-discover and celebrate your authentic self.
Common Mental Health Topics For Gay Men:
Internalized Homophobia
You have built a successful and satisfying life. You have a thriving career, great friends, and exciting travel opportunities. But, despite all of this, you still feel a sense of shame. You still struggle to fully accept yourself and feel confident.
Growing up in the Closet
Growing up, you didn't fit in with the other boys. You were teased and bullied for being effeminate. You may have been outed for your perceived sexuality before you even knew you were gay. Now, you still find yourself on high-alert in predominately straight environments.
Substance Use
You may not think of yourself as an addict. But you like to have fun. Pretty soon, G and ketamine become part of your regular routine on a Friday night.
Low Self-Esteem
You join a gym to start developing the ideal body you want. On your first day you walk in and you see tons of other gay men with perfect bodies. You immediately feel overcome with insecurity and a sense of defeat.
Sex
You've begun dating someone that you're really clicking with. You want to initiate sex, but you're nervous. You don't feel comfortable with intimacy. You're not sure how to express your sexual needs in a direct, healthy way.
Anxiety
You have a full social life and a great group of friends, but you still find yourself floodded with anxiety in most group settings.
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LGBTQ+ Family Planning
There are unique and specific nuances that LGBTQ+ identified parents face. For us, the process is simply different.
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The beauty within the challenges is that we create our families with an intent and purpose that takes on a profound meaning.
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It is essential that you connect with resources that celebrate LGBTQ+ folks.
I can help connect you with local fertility, surrogacy, and adoption services that affirm your needs. This is particularly important as the laws for adoption and surrogacy vary by state.
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I can help you navigate your emotional health as you walk through this milestone.
Gay Men and Masculinity
Gay men were once gay boys who were usually told they weren’t masculine enough. They played with the wrong toys and listened to the wrong music. Fast forward a couple of decades, and now we’re out gay men living in a world that celebrates our femininity more than ever. Which is great. But what about our masculinity? Did we ever get a chance to truly reconcile our gender expression, or was masculinity simply left behind in that closet?
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​First, we need to get clear on what masculinity really is. To make it simple, I’ll borrow three descriptors: 1. Protect, 2. Provide, 3. Procreate. Take the time to consider if you feel that you capture these in your life. Do you have opportunities to protect others? Are you a contributing provider? Again, these concepts don’t only exist in heteronormative paradigms. You can protect and provide in ways that have nothing to do with money, power, or physical strength.
You don't have to do this alone.
I have years of specialized experience treating gay men in private practice, intensive outpatient and residential levels of care. To get started, contact me for a free consultation. We’ll discuss your goals and I’ll give you a sense of how I work. My intention is to make sure everyone finds the right therapeutic space for their needs. I look forward to meeting you.
